Midlands Mistress Contacts From Birmingham to Lincoln

Below are the questions men round here actually ask once a dominant woman has shown interest: which city, which line, which road, and how you get home with your composure intact.

East Midlands or West Midlands: does it matter which side she's on?

On paper they're separate regions. The West Midlands takes in Birmingham, Coventry, Wolverhampton and the rest of the metropolitan county, plus Staffordshire, Warwickshire, Worcestershire, Shropshire and Herefordshire. The East Midlands is Derbyshire, Nottinghamshire, Leicestershire, Northamptonshire, Rutland and most of Lincolnshire.

In daily life the split shows up as two spines. The west runs along the M6, through Coventry and Birmingham and up to Stafford and Stoke, with the M42 looping round Birmingham's south and east. The east runs along the M1, from Northampton through Leicester and Loughborough to Nottingham, with Derby off the A50 and A52. The hinge is north-west Leicestershire, where the M42 becomes the A42 and meets the M1 near East Midlands Airport.

So a West Midlands mistress and a sub in the east aren't far apart; they're on different roads. Put yours in your contact. "I'm near junction 21 and happy to come west" tells her where you are and that you'll make the effort, and a woman who enjoys being obeyed notices the man who offers the travel before she has to demand it.

Birmingham or Nottingham: which city should the first meeting be in?

Birmingham has the railway on its side. New Street is the hub of the West Midlands lines and the crossing point for long-distance routes across the country, so trains pour in from Derby, Nottingham, Leicester, Coventry and Northampton. If she'd rather not meet under the departure boards, Moor Street is a few hundred metres away and Snow Hill a ten-minute walk or a short tram ride.

Head north-west of the centre and the Jewellery Quarter's 19th-century workshops give you red brick, side streets and somewhere to walk while she works out exactly what she thinks of you. Or follow the canal to Gas Street Basin; the city has over a hundred miles of navigable canal, and a towpath suits a first conversation neither of you wants overheard.

Nottingham does it differently. The Lace Market sits on the hill where the city began, a conservation area of tall Victorian warehouses and red-brick streets made for a slow walk. In Old Market Square the lion on the Council House steps has long been where locals meet; a bold domme might tell you to wait there, in full view, and enjoy watching you do it.

With the fastest trains between them a shade over an hour, a dominatrix Birmingham way and a mistress Nottingham way are both within reach; what settles it is where she lives, and which city neither of you works in.

She's in Leicester and I'm in Coventry. Where on earth do we meet?

It looks easy on the map. The trains disagree: there's no direct service, so you change at Nuneaton, and even the quickest connection runs close to an hour. The road is kinder. The M69 covers just under sixteen miles from the M6 on Coventry's north-eastern edge to junction 21 of the M1 by Leicester, passing south of Hinckley.

So drive it and meet her near her end, which says plenty about how keen you are, or both head for Birmingham: twenty-odd minutes from Coventry, under the hour from Leicester. Plenty of mistresses in Leicester would rather a sub came to them, while a dominatrix in Coventry may prefer the reverse. Ask, then do as you're told.

Picture how it goes. Your contact goes up on a Sunday night: Coventry, experienced, devoted rather than showy, happy to travel. On Tuesday a woman from Leicester answers in private chat with three questions about your limits and one about your timekeeping. By Thursday she's shared a photo of black leather gloves laid on a table, and one line: "Birmingham. Jewellery Quarter. Saturday at two. Be early, and don't make me look for you."

You're there at half past one. She arrives on the stroke of two, takes in the pressed shirt, the stillness, the fact that you stood the moment you saw her, and smiles as if she's already planning next Saturday. By four she's told you what you'll be wearing to it.

Isn't Derby too close to Nottingham to keep things quiet?

Close, yes. The quickest trains take under twenty minutes and the A52 links the two off junction 25 of the M1. Handy for a regular arrangement, less so for a first coffee, because the city next door is still the city next door.

The neat answer sits between them. East Midlands Parkway, near Ratcliffe-on-Soar, opened in 2009 on the Midland Main Line, with hourly trains to Nottingham, Derby and Leicester. It belongs to nobody's high street, which makes it a natural place to collect someone, or to be collected by her.

And the triangle runs every way. Derby to Leicester is about twenty minutes direct, so a dominatrix in Derby can perfectly well keep a sub in Leicester, without his train taking longer than she'll happily keep him waiting on his knees. If your patch sits anywhere on that triangle, join tonight and see which women are within a twenty-minute ride.

What about Lincolnshire, where everything's further apart?

Lincolnshire is the second largest county in England, and mostly rural. From the Wolds in the north-east to the Fens in the south-east and along the coast to Skegness, you think in half days rather than lunch hours.

The lines that matter run west. Lincoln to Newark North Gate takes under half an hour and puts you on the East Coast Main Line, and Nottingham is about an hour direct. By road, the A46 follows the old Roman Fosse Way and is dual carriageway from Newark to Lincoln. Skegness, by contrast, is over an hour and a half from Lincoln by train, with a change.

So a mistress in Lincolnshire often holds the stronger hand: she's worth the trip, and she knows it. In Lincoln, Steep Hill climbs from The Strait to Bailgate and the cathedral at one in seven, with a stretch so steep it's foot-only, and following a dominant woman up it, a respectful pace behind, is a quietly delicious form of discipline. Down at Brayford Pool, where the Witham widens in the middle of the city, the waterside is an easy place to pause and be told what happens next.

Does Northampton count, and which way should I travel from it?

It counts. Northamptonshire is officially East Midlands, but by rail Northampton faces west: trains between Birmingham and London Euston run through it a couple of times an hour, Coventry is just over half an hour direct and Birmingham just under the hour. There's no direct train to Leicester at all.

By road it's the opposite, with the M1 at junction 15 pointing you straight up to Leicester and on towards Nottingham. So spell it out in your contact: west by rail, north by car. A mistress Northampton-side who likes her subs punctual will appreciate knowing which you mean.

How do I get there and back without the evening showing on my face?

The Coventry to Birmingham corridor is the easiest in the region: well over a hundred trains a day, the quickest around twenty minutes, with Birmingham International on the same line by the airport and the NEC. That frequency is what makes a weekday evening work. Go straight from wherever your day ends, give her an hour or three, and be home at a perfectly ordinary time. Make it regular and the line itself becomes part of the ritual: anticipation on the way in, her instructions for next week replaying all the way home.

Longer runs ask for more thought: Coventry to Nottingham has no direct train, and Lincoln to Birmingham takes two hours or more. Timetables shift, so check the last service home before you set out, not after she's said you may stay a while longer. A Midlands mistress notices the man who's planned his way back; it tells her he'll respect the limits of the evening as surely as the ones she sets for him.

So where does a Midlands man start tonight?

With your contact, and the map in it. Say where you are, which line or road you're on and how far you'll travel. Use search near you to see dominant women round your city and the next one over, try the group chat, and move to private chat when someone answers.

If you're new to this, say so plainly; some dominant women relish being a man's first. If you've served before, tell her what you're after now, because a sub who knows his own mind is a pleasure to train. It's worth reading about dominant women in the Midlands and what draws them to a submissive man. If your patch spills north up the M6 past Stoke, carry on up to Manchester, and for everywhere else the near-me hub covers every region.

The Midlands rewards the man who'll travel for her. Join UK Dominatrix Contacts, write the contact that gets you noticed, and let a Midlands mistress tell you where to be, when, and what to wear.